SISTER MAIL: I Am Hurting In My Marriage

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I am truly grateful to everyone that have been interacting and communicating with me.

My last RED FLAGS post was inspired by a combination of my personal experiences together with the experiences of many of you who shared your experiences with me.

I am so really happy at the feedback I have received on the article from people who have found it extremely helpful and informative.

Some of the stories I hear leave me completely dumbfounded, but the story I recently received from one of our sisters utterly broke my heart.

Proper discernment and prayer is desperately needed while courting or waiting for your Joseph.

A man who sins with you before marriage will sin against you after marriage.

With her permission, I am sharing her story below and most importantly, I plead with you to join me in praying for her.

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Names and other information that were disclosed have been omitted to protect her privacy.

I have just read your latest red flag’ article. How i wish I had prayed more and waited for my Joseph instead of waiting to be chosen and rushing into marriage with a man who disrespected me from the first meeting and throughout our courtship and engagement, leading to many sins against purity.

After having been married for 3 years I had the shock of my life when I walked in on him viewing porn. He has stopped but seems to have no understanding of chastity within marriage. All this has led to me feeling objectified and not valued as a person.

Just wanted to give my experience and ask for prayers for what has become a marriage full of misunderstandings and deep hurt. I hold on to┬áprayer, and our beautiful traditional SSPX parish, school and community. I have many golden droplets of comfort from Our Lord. Let me also say I will never give up on our marriage – it is a holy Sacrament and there are many graces to be drawn from it. We also have several beautiful children.


Let this be a warning. Beautiful, virtuous and pure Catholic young ladies, do not be flattered into being led astray. It will only lead to the bitter regret of being married to a selfish and weak man. Think carefully with your head and not with your heart, and run a mile at the first warning sign. Above all, pray the Rosary!


Thank you for your beautiful articles, I am saving them for my children to read when they are older.
God bless you.

Please, I beg of you, remember her in your prayers and please be very careful out there. Not every man that shows you attention is your Joseph.   A man who sins with you before marriage will sin against you after marriage.

 

ad Jesum per Mariam

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5 thoughts on “SISTER MAIL: I Am Hurting In My Marriage

  1. I think that would be very helpful. Can I also add that girls should be taught and encouraged to see purity as a positive, as something to cherish, be proud of value and enjoy and see as empowering – as women always have – before feminists started to deride anyone who valued themselves enough to wait !

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  2. That is so sad but also so inevitable. No one is perfect and men do often struggle with chastity but it is pretty obvious that if a man has no respect for you and for God when he first meets you he is unlikely to find it easier through the pressures of family and parenting.

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      1. Sadly I think another lesson for girls is that if you don’t value yourself and show your principles by saying NO the man is likely to think that you are not that committed to your principles and that he doesn’t have to take them seriously.

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      2. True. I am actually working on a future post on how to avoid being prey to predators and one of the points I will include will be having self-esteem and valuing yourself.

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