If you wonder why I am so vehemently against daycare, aside of course from the decades of psychological and psychiatric research findings on the damaging effects that daycare has not just on the child’s mental, emotional and psychological development, but also on their lives long term, you might want to watch Father Ripperger’s talk on YouTube: State in Life Part 2: Marriage and Single Life.
In his video, he mentions that only for grave reasons should a mother work outside the home.
He also echoes what a lot of today’s psychologists mention: that the singular common denominator that a vast majority of anti-socials, socios and psychos have (including the ones who shoot up schools and who are “taking care” of your babies in daycare) is that, regardless of their background, race, age, or family status, the ONE THING that they all had in common was that they attended daycare in their early years.
A key trait of sociopathy, psychopathy and narcissism is lack of empathy.
Empathy is formed at the beginning stages of a child’s personality development, between ages 6months to 7 years.
A child at such a young age is just not emotionally equipped to be separated from its mother, which is precisely what daycare does.
The personality is still forming and this crucial age period literally makes or breaks the child’s future.
It doesn’t matter how loving, caring or attentive the daycare worker is.
It doesn’t matter if it is a Catholic daycare or not.
This is not an indictment on the daycare worker’s character or their professionalism.
This is about the crucial inner development of the child.
By age 18, the child’s personality is set.
The child has effectively grown into their personality and any maladaptive behaviours from toddlerhood begin to ossify (ie become set) from age 7 onwards.
Kinda like the way wet cement sets.
Now, contrary to what you might think, I do not hate daycare workers.
I am sure that you love your job and the children in your care.
You see, I was in your shoes.
One of my first jobs was as a daycare worker because I love children passionately.
I was 18.
Even then, I felt uncomfortable about these young children being in daycare and I quit after a year.
At the time, I couldn’t put my finger on why I was so uncomfortable with children being in daycare.
As I grew older, became more interested in psychology and then started my psychotherapy training with a focus on psycho-pathology, I realised why I was so uncomfortable about daycare.
It irrevocably stunts and damages the child’s personality and their psychological landscape.
Recent psychiatric and psychology research findings on the longterm damage of daycare well into the child’s adulthood have only served to reinforce my distaste for daycare.
Once a person’s personality is set, you just cannot change or fix it.
Again, using the wet cement analogy.
This is why personality disorders such as narcissism, sociopathy and psychopathy cannot be fixed or treated. The person has literally grown into their personality.
To imply personality disorders can be treated is to suggest a state of wellness existed BEFORE the pathology set in and therefore, it is simply a matter of restoring the person back to their baseline healthy state.
This is not the case with personality disorders. The personality has become ossified.
The person has grown into their personality.
There is NO BASELINE STATE to restore the personality back to.
You can’t change their personality any more than you can grow an extra foot within a week!
Contrary to what the general public thinks, a personality disorder is not a mental illness.
Mental illnesses can be treated because, again, there was a state of wellness BEFORE the mental illness set in.
For example, let’s look at a patient with schizophrenia.
The schizophrenic patient had a BEFORE period, where they were normal and functional before the onset of schizophrenia, and then an AFTER period.
Schizophrenia, along with many mental illnesses, can be treated and generally respond to treatment, therapy or medication because, again, there was a PRIOR BASELINE state of wellness that the patient can be effectively restored back to.
This is just not the case with personality disorders.
The damage occurred far too early in the child’s development that there is practically no state of wellness to return to.
And this is why personality disorders cannot, I repeat, CANNOT be treated or fixed.
Here is another simple analogy:
Imagine a tree was struck by lightning and as a result of the damage, the tree split off into two separate parts, but continued to grow into these two separate parts.
Now, if you had intervened early in the tree’s life shortly after the damage occurred, you might have been able to redirect the direction in which the tree grows.
However, once the tree has ossified in its growth; it becomes set in that pattern.
Just like wet cement sets.
You can destroy the tree or hack it down, but you can’t ever get it back to its original state.
So it is with personality disorders. There is no cure and there is no treatment.
The only way to prevent this happening to a child is to ensure the child is brought up in a cohesive and healthy family unit and kept FAR AWAY from daycare.
The modern-day rise in feminist insanity, career mothers and of course daycare from the 1960s till now has resulted in an equally exponential rise in adults with severe personality disorders such as psychopathy, sociopathy and narcissism. And we can clearly see the evidence of this all around us.
The horrible crimes committed by these anti-socials, sociopaths and psychopaths that we see today are vastly from the daycare generation.
People who believe that parenting simply entails ensuring the child is fed, clothed and housed have no business being parents, to be honest.
It takes so much more than food, clothing and a roof over the head to raise a child.
The emotional, personality and psychological development of a child are just as crucial, if not more so, as its physical development.
Children with damaged personalities become adults with damaged personalities who then create damaged societies.
And this only comes back to bite you in the derriere when these same damaged children become adults that kill, maim, abuse, destroy or shoot up you or your loved ones.
Wonder why everything is going to Hell and why society seems increasingly diabolical and psychopathic?
Reverse engineer the entire process and it will lead you back to the 1960s and the era of the rise in feminism, breakdown of the family unit, mothers entering the workforce full time and their children being dumped in daycare.
Unless a person is willing to stay home with their young children in the pre-school age, they should not have children.
It’s diabolical and pure selfishness to bring into this world a child that you put through maladaptive parenting and the daycare system in order to justify your desire to have a family.
Do not marry, date or even entertain any man that does not understand the importance of the role of the Stay At Home Mother.
If you feel you cannot stay home and raise children on one income, then don’t have children – period!
Do not have children if you are still making your career a priority.
If you feel you must focus on your career, then get a nanny.
A nanny is the next best option for the young child to having his mommy at home and might just work out cheaper than daycare too.
Whatever you do, keep your babies away from daycare.
Your terrible decisions will return to bite you, I guarantee it. God is not mocked!
This is why the importance of a healthy and cohesive family unit cannot be overstressed.
This is why the influence of a mother being at home with her young children cannot be over-estimated.
Now, go watch that Fr. Ripperger video that I mentioned above.
ad Jesum per Mariam