I put together, with lots of help from my husband, this list of essential masculine life skills for boys and men.
In my opinion, a man should have these skills to be an effective protector, provider and leader for his family.
It would shock you the horror stories I have heard of adult man-babies who have no DIY skills whatsoever, no gardening skills, terrible financial management, and no independence either.
Some of these men are in their late 40s too!!
Like, dude, you are in no shape whatsoever to get married. Marriage is serious business and a man who doesn’t take himself seriously enough to acquire these BASIC SKILLS will never take you seriously or take the marriage seriously either. RUN!!
If he grew up with one or both parents and is STILL like these, then it is indicative of BAD PARENTING and an incredibly toxic family system. STEER CLEAR. You do NOT want to be dating or marrying into a family like this.
No matter how wonderful, patient and loving you are, toxic families will never see your value and they will gang up on you and tear you apart – causing friction in your marriage, ruining your relationships with your kids.
Just steer clear. It is not your job to raise men who have been badly-raised by their mothers and even if you tried, it will never work.
If a guy is unable to meet at least 80% of these essential and very BASIC life skills, please do not date or marry him as it is often indicative of severe character flaws within them.
Yes, I understand that some men grew up without a father-figure and may have not had a man to lead them and teach them these things.
However, in today’s age of internet technology and very access to information, there’s no excuse for a man not working on himself and fixing his deficits.
If you have a son, be sure to work through these skills with him as he grows – he would be incredibly grateful to you – trust me!!
St Joseph, model of manhood and masculinity, pray for us!
ad Jesum per Mariam