I created this platform to be a resource for traditional Catholic women and those interested in reclaiming authentic, traditional Catholic femininity.

Although my target demographic is mainly women and young ladies, I am seeing a growing number of men following my website, learning, observing and delighting in the increasing trend of women returning back to real traditional Catholic femininity.

So, as per the request of the many men who respond, comment, message and write to me, I have decided to devote a small portion of the blog to articles written exclusively for these men.

In addition to requests like THIS and THIS, one of the main requests I receive from men is for me to write about masculinity.

They are seeing the traditional Catholic women via this platform reclaiming true Biblical femininity and it is inspiring and motivating these men to want to do better, to improve upon themselves and/or their marriages, and to make themselves worthy of the beautiful, feminine, traditional Catholic women that they aspire to court, marry and lovingly lead.

You see, part of the reason why a vast majority of men in today’s world have become effeminate, weak, and unmotivated is due to decades of emasculation by the so-called feminist movement.

When you repeatedly disrespect men, stomp them out of the picture, infantilise them, tell them that you are a “strong independent woman that don’t need no man”, reframe masculinity to be something defective, inherently violent, dangerous and sexually perverse, you create a culture of men ashamed of their masculinity, and this results in them dumbing down their own masculine nature, wanting to be female (either through effeminate lifestyles or changing genders), claiming to be feminists themselves, and in essence, losing complete touch with their true selves.

Going back to the Bible and God’s original plan, Man was given two main tasks: to protect and to provide.

The feminisation and emasculation of men have created a generation of men with increasing low self-worth, leading to no ambition or motivation to work and provide.
After all, if men have no one to provide for because the feminist movement has rendered them unwanted, obsolete and unnecessary, then why bother working or being ambitious?

Having a wife to provide for and a family dependent on him is what fuels a man’s ambition and desire to work, and this, in turn, fuels his masculinity, self-esteem and dignity.
Basically, he feels much more like a man when he has to financially provide for his wife and family.

This is why it is contrary to nature, to God’s plan, and Biblical teaching for a man to be a Stay-At-Home Dad.

HERE IS WHAT THE BIBLE HAS TO SAY

But if any man have not care of his own and especially of those of his house, he hath denied the faith and is worse than an infidel.

1 Timothy 5:8 – highlighting the greivous shame of a man unable to provide for his own family.

Hast thou seen a man swift in his work? he shall stand before kings, and shall not be before those that are obscure.

Proverbs 22: 29 – highlighting the fact that a man gains public honour and respect in his community when he works and is gainfully employed.

HERE IS WHAT THE CATECHISM OF THE CATHOLIC CHURCH HAS TO SAY

Human work proceeds directly from persons created in the image of God and called to prolong the work of creation by subduing the earth, both with and for one another. Hence work is a duty: “If any one will not work, let him not eat.” Work honors the Creator’s gifts and the talents received from him. It can also be redemptive. By enduring the hardship of work in union with Jesus, the carpenter of Nazareth and the one crucified on Calvary, man collaborates in a certain fashion with the Son of God in his redemptive work. He shows himself to be a disciple of Christ by carrying the cross, daily, in the work he is called to accomplish. Work can be a means of sanctification and a way of animating earthly realities with the Spirit of Christ

CCC 2427

In work, the person exercises and fulfills in part the potential inscribed in his nature. The primordial value of labor stems from man himself, its author and its beneficiary. Work is for man, not man for work.Everyone should be able to draw from work the means of providing for his life and that of his family, and of serving the human community.
CCC 2428

It is unjust not to pay the social security contributions required by legitimate authority. Unemployment almost always wounds its victim’s dignity and threatens the equilibrium of his life. Besides the harm done to him personally, it entails many risks for his family.
CCC 2436

So, dear brothers-in-Christ, being a Stay-At-Home Dad, being unemployed or financially dependent on your wife will not just hurt your masculinity, but will also detract from your sense of self-worth and dignity. There is indeed nobility and honour in work and employment.

Authentic, traditional femininity will only be attracted to authentic, traditional masculinity and only an authentically feminine woman is capable of being submissive.

Even if you are currently unmarried, having a job, a career, and a plan for your future fuels your ambition, gives you something to live for and amps up your masculinity. This amplified masculinity will radiate from your entire being, making you much more attractive to women and boosting your chance of capturing the heart of a good, traditional, feminine woman.

Many effeminate men today say: well, what do YOU (referring to women) bring to the table?

These men forget that men are supposed to prepare the table BEFORE they even get the woman. Adam already had the table prepared, materially and in every sense, before Eve was then presented to him.
This is God’s template for humans and anything outside of His template will lead to friction, discord, and breakdown of both the family unit and society as a whole.

Dear men, women are not supposed to bring ‘anything’ to the table – that is YOUR job, as a man.
You are supposed to bring the table and everything on it.

It is the job of the woman to then help you maintain that table and multiply the resources that YOU provide.

In summary, to reclaim masculinity, self-worth, respect, and dignity, a man needs to:

Have a job and career.
Have ambition and a plan for his future.
Be the breadwinner, and financially/materially provide for his family, spouse or spouse-to-be.

St Joseph is such a great example of authentic masculinity and a wonderful role model for men. He fulfilled his Biblical calling to provide and protect. He worked very hard, being a provider and main breadwinner for his family, and he also protected Mary and the child Jesus.

This is why, after the Blessed Virgin, St Joseph has the highest respect and honour among the saints. Men today will do well to emulate and learn from St Joseph.

Thank you for reading.