- that he cares for her,
- that he is able and willing to feed her, and provide for her, both materially and financially, as well as any offspring they might have.
In the past, a man who is unable to demonstrate his worthiness as a provider would have been rejected as a marriage suitor. Having a wife was a status symbol, demonstrating he has good stock to be able to provide for a woman and also ensure the survival of his genes by having a family with her.
Even today, married men are more respected, both at work and within the community, than their single counterparts.
Feminism did women a HUGE disservice by fostering the mindset that women can do it all, women SHOULD do it all, and we are “independent women that need no man”.
So of course, women got programmed and conditioned to pay on dates when men ask them out, to expect little or no material investment from the guy, and basically to manage down their expectations and lower their standards.
Men saw this and they relaxed their courting efforts. They no longer had to pursue, to woo or win a woman over anymore. Hey, the woman will pay on dates….. she will even chase after the man, and initiate dates and so on in the relationship. They became more disrespectful and more abusive. Women in response became harder, colder and more masculine.
This is a perversion of the natural order. Remember, the devil likes to pervert everything that is of God. Anything that is not of God is of the devil, so when you act and behave in a manner contrary to God’s plan and the natural order, you ARE giving glory to the devil, and opening yourself up to all sorts of evil in your life.
In God’s natural order, men are supposed to be the ones to initiate and to give, the woman to be receptive and nurture – even the male and female sexual organs are a reminder of this!
Thankfully, there are still traditional men out there that know how to treat a woman and who are still in their masculinity and manhood.
When I was dating, I never EVER was allowed to pay on any date I was asked on and I also received gifts during the relationship.
So how do we turn around this tide of stingy, effeminate men shaming women by labelling them gold-diggers or materialistic, simply because the women are feminine and are following their natural God-given instinct to only marry and procreate with a man who demonstrates he is able to give and to provide?
Here’s how we do it, ladies. Stop. Dating. These. Men. That’s it!
Avoid them. Do not date, befriend or entertain them in any way. Understand that they are not in submission to God’s natural order and that they are working on an instinct that is not of God.
- Friendship stage
- Courtship stage
- Engagement and Betrothal stage
If you haven’t done so already, I would recommend that you read up about these stages HERE.
JEWELLERY FOR THE FRIENDSHIP STAGE
During this stage, you are beginning to know each other as friends, and not just merely passing acquaintances. You are also trying to determine if you both have enough things in common and mutual attraction before formally courting her.
Obviously, you do not have to give a gift at the beginning of this stage, but at some point, halfway through the Friendship stage, an acceptable gift to give her would be a bracelet or a charm bracelet.
Something delicate, feminine and made of good quality, so, not something cheap that you’d get from the corner-store.
Remember, if you do get married to her, this jewellery will be a marker and a reminder for both of you, your children and grandchildren for years to come, of the both of you beginning this journey together.
The bracelet itself does not need to be overly expensive, but it does need to be of good quality and preferably made of gold.
I also really like Rosary or Saints bracelets.
JEWELLERY FOR THE COURTSHIP STAGE:
So you have decided that you would like to court her and get to know her better, officially declaring to her and the world that you two are an exclusive item.
An acceptable gift for this period would be a pair of earrings or a pendant-earring set.
Once again, something delicate, feminine, and of good quality that is preferably in a classic style that would stand the test of time.
You would present this gift to her at the moment you ask to court her and make your relationship official.
JEWELLERY FOR THE ENGAGEMENT STATE:
She is the one! You are convinced of that! This is the woman that is bone of your bone, flesh of your flesh, the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with.
The obvious gift that you present to her at this stage is an engagement ring.
The choice of the stone and style of the ring is entirely dependent on both your preferences, but I personally prefer a diamond ring, simply because it is traditional and a timeless classic.
The engagement ring you choose is then presented to her when you go down on one knee and ask her to be your bride and wife.
MORE HELPFUL RESOURCES FOR MEN WHILE COURTING: