Some strange “Catholic” guy on Twitter was arguing me with me a few days ago about my stance that husbands should Provide and Protect, a directive given from God.
First of all, what sort of man spends his time arguing with women online…..on a female-targeted platform like TCF?!
TCF is a platform created for women – for Traditional Catholic women, to be specific – and I find it utterly hilarious that Novus Ordites and men in general, would spend their time arguing with me over my opinions online.
Now, of course, I do not always engage with them.
I am not here to convert or convince anyone; I am only here to inform.
In addition, I am not the type of person to get involved with pointless arguments, debates or gossip. I may be a housewife, but I have a life to live, my family to take care of and other commitments to tend to.
There are lots of people with different views online and offline.
I may mention or disagree with some of those opinions (eg transgenderism) within my own digital space (ie my website and social media), but you will not see me going on to transgender or NO spaces and then trolling or arguing with them over their lifestyles.
A man who argues with women or bitches, gossips and argues like a woman displays severe effeminacy, even if he tries to cover it up with some lumberjack outward costume.
Communication, discourse and interpersonal-relating is the sphere of women and female energy, and it makes total sense for women to interact, communicate and reach out to each other via social media.
Even so, a truly feminine and traditional woman is virtuous enough to know her battles and she does not allow herself to get drawn into every debate or to respond at every dog that barks.
She is not a drama whore, a nag, a troll, or a debater and you will not find her engaged in endless debates, trolling and arguments, either offline or online.
SIDE NOTE FOR MEN: when vetting a woman, watch their social media interactions and avoid women who display the traits in the above paragraph.
A truly feminine and traditional Catholic woman is a high-value woman that is too busy working on her own feminine energy, developing Biblical virtues or, if married, taking care of her husband and family.
She may use social media to inform, interact and communicate, but never ever to troll, debate or argue.
Those men who engage in constant debates and online arguments, especially those who do so on digital spaces and platforms that are specifically for women, show ZERO ounce of masculinity or virtue.
Unless he is using social media to build his brand or business, I would give a man like this a wide berth as he displays not only effeminacy but also poor real-life interpersonal skills.
Authentically masculine men just do not spend their time engaging in effeminate or feminine-type behaviour such as nagging, arguing, gossiping, or just being a contrarian and arguing opinions that are different to theirs, either online or offline.
In fact, many men that are truly alpha or masculine do not have or actively use social media.
The few truly masculine men that I see on social media only use it to build their brand or business.
They are not overly active on it and they certainly do not have the time or interest in arguing with women online, or engaging in silly playground baiting, debates and arguments.
They are too busy working on themselves, developing their careers, and providing for their families.
A lesson in there, ladies!
Could you ever imagine St Joseph, spouse of our Lady, acting like these effeminate men on social media?! No, of course not! He was authentically masculine – a man of very few words, but lots of action.
This is the type of man that you should seek as your Joseph.
In addition, authentic masculinity does not feel so threatened by another person’s differing opinion that they feel the need to either go into that person’s physical space aka their home or their digital space aka their website/social media and then argue, berate or troll them.
Now, when I first got married, I used to be upset that my husband did not have or want a social media account like Facebook or Twitter, but I now understand why – my husband is authentically masculine and I appreciate him so much more for this.
So, when discerning or vetting a guy that you are dating, you would do well to observe how he acts on social media.
Don’t just observe his selfie-style, but also watch his interactions and communication style too.
Is he the type to respond to every differing opinion, even those not directed at him?
Is he the type to berate, troll or just be a contrarian in matters not related to him such as women’s issues and so on.
Are his online communications and interactions mostly with women or female-centric platforms?
If any of the above apply, drop him quickly!!
Not only does he display effeminacy and a severe lack of masculinity, but he shows poor self-control and you could end up with a wife-beater.
Our Lady, Seat of Wisdom, pray for us!
ad Jesum per Mariam