This may be an unpopular opinion, but I do not think that you as a woman, should ever pay for subscriptions on dating apps and sites.

A good way to filter out time wasters and men who are unwilling or incapable of providing is to not pay for subscriptions on dating sites.

On some dating sites, you need to pay to be able to send a message and, as a woman, you should never send a message first – the man should approach you first!  However, you may be able to express interest by simply visiting his profile and he would receive notification of this and then reach out to you if he is truly interested.  You may also be able to ‘like’ his picture or status and again, if he is genuinely interested, he would reach out to you.

Now, what if he reaches out to you, but you cannot see his message? I think this is common on Match.Com
Well, this means that he has not paid for a subscription that allows you to see his message and this means, he is not serious about finding a date, and he wants to flirt and hook up with as many women as possible without investing properly.  It could also mean he is stingy, a cheapskate, and the type of man who does not believe in paying for dates.  Worse, he is the type of guy who would utterly waste your time and energy by taking you on cheap dates, such as coffee dates or drink dates.

So do not stress if a guy sends you a message and you cannot see – he is not the one for you, anyway.  You want a guy who is serious enough about finding a future spouse that they invest and pay for subscriptions and a man who has no issues with paying for a woman on a date.

See WHY MEN SHOULD PAY ON DATES

A man who has issues paying for proper dates should never ever have access to you; you are not bottom-barrel leftovers.

If you pay for dating site/app subscriptions, you may find yourself messaging him first and it will also give him the impression that you have resources, such as a comfortable job, which will make you a target for predators who want to use you for money or sex.

The majority of men, including the men online, are only looking to use women for sex or money.  If you are age 30 and under, they are looking to use you for sex, and if you are older, they are looking to use you for your money, status or resources.  And once they have gotten what they want from you, they will throw you away. Either way, contacting men first will immediately give the impression that you are desperate and therefore, something must be wrong with you for you to chase after men.

A trad feminine Catholic woman is a woman of high value and things of high value are not easily accessible to the general public or to vagrants. So make yourself inaccessible to these losers, users, and predators, by not being easy for them – DO NOT PAY FOR DATING SITE OR APP SUBSCRIPTIONS.

Never forget what I always tell you – a man who is genuine and serious about you will invest in you – TIME, MONEY, and EFFORT!
Also, men do not respect or value anything or person that they did not work hard for.  This is why it is so hard to find genuine relationships via online dating sites and apps.  With free and unlimited access to so many women, these men have grown to devalue women and to be non-committal.  This is why they treat women like disposable objects, to be thrown away when they get bored.
Scarcity and elusiveness is what makes you attractive and more feminine.

When a man, however, has to put in effort and money (whether it is money that he pays for dating site subscriptions or the money he has to expend on dates), he is more likely to respect and value you more, and thus, hold on to you.

Do not even waste your time with men who expect you to chase them, to initiate contact or messages, who expect you to pay 50-50 on dates, or who take you on cheap dates. It would be better for you to remain single and simply stay home, in your comfortable jammies, watching a good movie, than waste your time with a man who from the start is already devaluing you.

And by not paying for subscriptions, you rapidly filter out these unsuitable men and leave yourself open to receive and respond to worthy men, which means that in the long term, you spend less time in online dating before finding the one.

Also, see

ONLINE DATING: THE FIRST FEW MESSAGES
WHEN A MAN ASKS YOU IF YOU LIVE ALONE 
DISGUSTING EFFEMINACY OF MODERN MEN
HOW TO KNOW IF HE IS WILLING AND ABLE TO RPOVIDE
A STINGY MAN WILL MAKE A STINGY HUSBAND

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