It is no secret that there is an epidemic of narcissism and narcissistic abuse today. There is also an increase in the abuse and murder of women.
As a lot of women, liberals, feminists, and even conservative-minded women are learning about narcissistic abuse, they are becoming more careful, more discerning and being very picky about the kind of men that they date or even allow into their lives.
Many men who already feel entitled to women are very angry that women now having boundaries and standards, and it has triggered a lot of rage in them.
They no longer have easy access to use and abuse women, and instead of changing their behaviours and mindset, they become enraged.
The more covertly abusive, manipulative ones may seem harder to spot because they hide and disguise their inner rage and disgust towards women so well, but bear in mind that you can spot them by identifying THESE RED FLAGS and then avoiding them or removing them from your lives to protect yourself.
The more overtly abusive men are fairly easy to spot as they display blatantly obvious rage towards women.
It may not be directed AT YOU specifically, but trust me, if a man is demeaning all other women, it is only a matter of time before his rage is focused on you.
Angry man syndrome can look like this.
A man who says things on his dating profile like “what is wrong with the women on this site? why doesn’t anyone want to meet up??!”
There is a reason why the women on these dating sites are refusing to meet with this man. Don’t engage with him and be his next victim.
They also say things like “the people on this dating site are gold diggers, hookers,etc etc”
or
“Women today are disgusting, diseased, damaged etc etc”
“if you are an unmarried woman at 35 or older, you are a leftover unwanted woman”
“Single mothers are damaged goods “
This person already has profound disrespect, contempt and hatred for women, and no matter how nice, feminine and virtuous you are, he will never see that in you. He doesn’t want to. He wants to stick to his narrative that women are evil and hateful.
You will be tarnished with the same hateful brush and you WILL be demeaned and devalued.
A lady sent me the message of a man who told her “I am too good to be on dating sites, I can’t believe that I have to lower myself by being on dating websites. The women here are just awful and damaged. They are not even that attractive”
Imagine that!! A man who feels so special and entitled that he should not be on dating websites (narcissism – someone who feels special and above others) and yet he is on a dating website (hypocrisy).
I told this lady to RUN FAST AND FAR AWAY from this man.
Men like these hate women viciously and many of them are looking for a woman that they can unleash their rage on. You will be punished and abused for all the perceived slights from other women towards this guy – all the resentment and hatred he has from every slight rejection of women will be heaped on you because a man like this believes you deserve it.
A guy like this is also projecting.
By labelling all women as being damaged, he is revealing that he himself is damaged………so damaged, in fact, that he is unable to find a suitable relationship because no woman in her right mind will engage with him.
If you engage with a man like this, you will be ridiculed, mocked, humiliated and abused covertly and underhandedly at first, and then overtly.
You could even get physically harmed or killed.
Angry men like this are not men who have ‘been hurt so bad in the past and only need the love of a good woman to help them’.
No.
They may have been hurt, but they have made the CHOICE to be actively hateful towards women and they are dangerous.
Your love, kindness and virtues will not change them – you will simply be a scapegoat for them to unleash physical and/or emotional abuse on.
Another important thing to note is that when you engage with angry abusive men like these, they WILL affect and change you on a fundamental level.
The covert insults and disrespect will be like little jabs that slowly erode away your soul and your psyche (death by a thousand cuts) , and when the relationship ends, you will be unconsciously traumatised.
You will even start to believe what they tell you about yourself.
This trauma and damage, that you may not even be aware of, will be picked up by other men and a lot of decent, genuine and honourable men will not want to deal with you or date you.
This is because they want a whole woman as a partner, not someone who is traumatised.
Other predatory or abusive men will target you cos it is far easier for them to break down and destroy someone who is already damaged.
So, as you can see it is very important to stay away from angry men, abusive and controlling men, not just because of the damage they will cause to you, but because interactions with them will make you less likely to attract decent men and more likely to attract even more predators and abusers.
If you see a woman who seems to go from one abusive partner to the other or one manipulative/unsuitable partner to the other, this is the reason why.
Abusive, angry and manipulative people pattern and condition you for further abuse by other abusive, angry and manipulative people.
Plus, you will be become bitter and tainted after having to deal with these people.
It is far better to remain single, and preserve your innocence and femininity than to date or engage with these people.
You do not have to attack them back.
Just listen the what they say, either in-person or on the dating profile and then block them.
If you have already exchanged numbers or have gone on a date, and they start exhibiting angry man syndrome like this, decline further dates and block them immediately everywhere because they can be dangerous and deadly.
If feminist and liberal-minded women today are that discerning enough to avoid dating or engaging with men like these, you as a traditional Catholic and feminine woman should be even more so discerning and VERY selective to stay away from these men.
Remember, a woman who is truly feminine and virtuous is naturally very selective and picky.
If she wasn’t, she would not be feminine or virtuous for very long.
Additionally, honourable and genuinely masculine high-value men really admire a woman who is selective.
So, be discerning, be wise and stay away from misogynistic narcissistic men with angry man syndrome.
Make sure to also see
EARLY DATING RED FLAGS OF AN ABUSER
VETTING A GUY ON SOCIAL MEDIA
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In approaching two decades’ anniversary of being married, I can give some advice on how to survive if you find yourself in a situation that is rather ambiguous.
Firstly, I married a man who is an excellent provider. I am profoundly grateful for that. However, as a teacher I could never make the same amount of money. For reasons which are still unclear, I was blamed whenever we couldn’t afford something, whenever we had debt, etc. There was no sitting down together and discussing how we could make things work for us. He got the idea that women were to blame for everything, and I was. This took its toll on me when I had many young children. Coming from a broken home myself, my greatest fear was being abandoned. I had quit my job and become entirely dependent upon him.
On the subject of vetting — sometimes this side of the spouse will not come out until marriage. We dated for two years before getting engaged, and did not marry until one year after that. I am serious. The anger did not show up.
The greatest deception of many “trad” wife blogs run by some rather prominent voices is that you, as a woman, should never train for a career because it will ruin you for marriage and motherhood. That is a lie. It is a tool designed to keep you from having a Plan B in the event that you do find yourself married to someone who threatens you, refuses to provide for you, or blames you for everything. In my case, my husband provided very well for us in a very successful career, but he took his anger out on me whenever the opportunity presented itself. I cannot count the number of times he told me he was literally inches away from losing his job because of the stress I put him through, how I neglected things at home and he had to come home and do my jobs; how he was sick and in danger of losing his job because of my poor cooking. As a young wife home with children, homeschooling, and without a remunerative job, I quickly became so emotionally and mentally ill that I contemplated suicide on multiple occasions, could not even begin homeschooling some days and ended up huddled up in a ball in our walk-in closet, and would sit on the sofa in tears. I got to the point that I could not even respond to my children. IT WILL DAMAGE YOU AND DAMAGE YOU SEVERELY. Lori Alexander recently put up a blog post about the “three phrases that damage marriages” — “happy wife, happy life”; “learn my love language”, and “meet my emotional needs”.
Well, a man has some obligation to console and comfort his wife (happy wife), learn what speaks love the most to her (love language), and provide some emotional comfort. I’m talking bare minimum here; I am not talking about some high-maintenance drama queen who has to be the center of attention all the time. From reading her blogs, you can see that Lori was a major drama queen who had to control her husband’s and children’s every move, every bite they put into their mouths, and so forth. Being who she is, she has decided that every woman is exactly like she is and she goes around telling every other woman how to live her life. She never really homeschooled — she only homeschooled for the junior high years and all they did was some math every day and then they read books — that wouldn’t pass for homeschooling in most cases — yet she tells everyone else to. If you have a loving, supportive husband, that makes it easier (not easy), but if he first insists that you do and then proceeds to tell you daily that the kids are all going to Hell in a handbasket because you’re doing a lousy job, he’s going to deplete every bit of energy and drive you have to homeschool well. Then he’ll complain some more because — heavens to Betsy — you can’t give to anybody if you’re depleted and sunk into depression! Oh, wait, I forgot. Only MEN get depleted and depressed because of their horrible wives.
Sorry for the rant. :-) The key to sanity? Just quit engaging with him. If you’ve neglected buying new clothes, makeup, hair care products because he kept telling you how poor he was because it was all your fault, start getting the things you need to look good and feel good. Start exercising every day, and DON’T include him; he will only criticize your routine and tell you why it’s ineffective, and make you do his with him (which is beyond you and wears you out and makes you sore and miserable for the rest of the day); just do your own thin that you know you can stick with. (I watched a YouTube video from 1989 in which the dear old late actor and comedian George Burns was interviewed — “The Wit and Wisdom of George Burns” — and not only does he speak so tenderly of his dear wife Gracie Allen, who predeceased him by thirty years [and he visited her grave every month] but he also showed his daily exercise routine, which emphasized one should never fail to do. I found his routine perfect for my level, which was absolute beginner, plus I dearly loved the Burns and Allen comedy routines.)
When my younger children were old enough, I got a part-time job. This gave me something to look forward to and helped me to forget my problems. I would homeschool my kids in the morning, then go and teach classes to other kids in the afternoon. It increased my workload, but it got me out of myself. I looked forward to it all the time. It also gave me a chance to turn to my husband when he would turn me down for any intimate time with the one sentence, “I work,” and say to him, “So do I.” (It didn’t change anything, but it was satisfying to be able to say it.)
Also, remember what your needs are and that they are different from the rest of the family. The rest of the family may need pasta and a lot of meat and potatoes, but you have different needs. I need lighter fare. Learn to tune out the accusation that you are making something different for yourself and how the rest of the family has to eat the “slop” (even though you are making the same things his mother made, it won’t be just like hers; yours is “half-assed” and “sloppy”.) Easier said than done; a young mom with children and totally dependent on her husband is in danger of slipping into serious depression (I know, I was there) but if you can hang on a few more years, they will be older and you can get out of the house more often to help shore up your brain and emotions a little. Eventually it will get better. I promise you that. The scars will be there, but you will have gained something. The only thing I can say is that if you repeatedly make acts of faith to God that you know He has gifts for you in everything, eventually you will find those gifts. You just aren’t able to always see them at the time.
What I wish I had done — call him on it a LONG time ago. Make an appointment with your priest and keep it. Ask the priest to come at a specific time when your husband is home and he can’t back out of it. If you’re concerned that he will then accuse you of making him look bad and make your life worse, say that to Father right in front of the husband. Unfortunately, I fell influence to Lori Alexander and other fundie tradwomen and never called my husband on it. I just sunk deeper into depression until finally I decided I was done and had had it. Fortunately I had good friends who helped me find my own value.
And you can, too.
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