I know that most of my articles focus on dating and courtship tips, and avoiding red flags of men who are predatory, or who are abusive misogynists cosplaying fake trad Catholic masculinity.Β Β However, the reason why I do so is to adequately prepare you to make the absolute right choices in dating cos when you do so and you choose a genuinely trad, masculine, protector, provider Catholic man, your marriage is literally Heaven on earth
Too many so-called trad life websites and platforms have it backwards.
They extol all the wonderful aspects of being in a trad marriage and being a trad wife, but fail to stress how you will NEVER have a happy trad marriage, where you are protected and provided for, if you do not marry a man who is a genuinely trad masculine man, not just in words, but also in action.
These so-called trad platforms also FAIL to actually teach you how to be attractive for and be courted by a trad masculine man.Β They just put all the burden on women – you must be feminine, trad, blah blah……. and they seriously think that your trad and feminine virtues will magically make any pig taken off the streets a trad, masculine man – in short, they groom you and teach you to become prey for predators, leading to you being disappointed, used, abused, and worse.
I promise you, your virtues will NEVER change a toxic man.
My tactic is very different. I teach you how to embrace trad, feminine and Catholic traits, but NOT to attract a man, but to align yourself with God’s template for you as a woman.Β At the same time, I teach you to preserve yourself, have boundaries and standards, that all protect your femininity and trad values, and to be picky and discerning in choosing men ( a very important trad feminine characteristic that these fake trads do not highlight), and doing these things would expose the trad fraud men and draw to you genuinely trad masculine men.
And my tactics and teachings do work!
So far this year, I have had many TCF engagements as well as weddings from people, women AND men, who write to me and tell me that they regularly read my blog and follow me on social media, applying my principles and teachings to their lives and how it has led them to get married or engaged.
I love hearing these success stories, and this week, I have yet another one, this time to share with you all.Β I am also particularly touched and honoured that my article also inspired the priest and guided him in performing his first Catholic betrothal!! I hope more priests continue to practice these traditional Catholic rites.
After asking her permission, I am sharing her story here.
I hope you get inspired, and feel free to share it with the young women in your life or anyone you feel will benefit from it.
The more we share the content, the more we can inform others in the Catholic community about what being a traditional Catholic or trad relationship is really about, the more it would inspire traditional Catholic men to be genuinely trad and masculine, instead of them listening to red pill manosphere nonsense that turns them into misogynistic a-holes!
Also, please pray for this young couple, that their future marital home will be full of many blessings and graces.
Meanwhile, never settle, only date men who pay on dates and never let a man waste your time.Β You can find a truly trad masuline protector, provider Catholic man
“Hello,
I just wanted to let you know that my man and I received the rite of betrothal today.
I learned about this rite through your fb page. Also, we got a copy of the rite through your page so you have been very helpful to us and to our priest (first time to betroth a couple).
We try to do our best to keep everything as traditional as we can and to consecrate everything to Christ including our relationship since we returned from being lukewarm Catholics together August of last year.
Again, Thank you so much and I pray you continue to inform others with these very important and beautiful rites, ceremony, sacraments etc. that the Catholic church offers. Sharing with you these photos of today”
Be sure to see the following articles too:
I wrote about the Betrothal Rite she is talking about HEREΒ
Also, see this article that I wrote about a TCF reader who shared what her traditional Catholic marriage looks like, and this reader who was able to find true love after an abusive relationship.
Start the right path to marriage by using the Β βStages of A Traditional Catholic Courtshipβ, as a guideline in your own courtship process.
And as we are coming up tp the festive season and some of you may be getting proposals, be sure to see this article on spotting engagement/proposal red flags – the last thing you want is a shut-up ring or a ring from a guy who is preying on your life
Most Holy Spouses, pray for us!!
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